LIFE AFTER DEATH: EMBRACING THE QUEER WIDOW


Douglas Morris, "Fraidy Cat", 2001.
 Acrylic and gold leaf on canvas, 60"x40"

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Douglas K. Morris

Three months after my lover’s death I sat in our doctor’s office getting a prescription for tranquilizers. The doctor told me, “Ya know Doug I can’t write another script for you. You will eventually have to work through this.” Stepping out his office door and on to the cobblestone streets of “Old Port” Portland, Maine, I remember thinking, “Gosh, these must be close to two hundred years old and they are still here.” Covered with the ice from the last storm, they were beautifully uneven and difficult to walk over.

Arriving home to our cottage in the woods I sat gazing at the blue sculptured carpet, it looked very much like the streets of Old Port. There was a knock at the door and my neighbor poked her head in. “Hey Douglas, do you have my large cooking pot? Remember, I brought it over the night of the memorial service?” “Oh Yeah”, I said, walking into the kitchen and pulling it out of the refrigerator. Opening it we saw what was once food. “I’m sorry, let me clean this out.” Pulling her nose and head back with a jerk she blurted out, “You need to get over it!” I felt a knot in my throat and anger rising in my belly.

Six years and three thousand miles later I still find myself trying to get over it. Each day it becomes a bit easier to make a meal for one, to plan a weekend trip for one, or to make the bed for one. “Getting over it” has been like the streets of Old Port, uneven and slippery. Recovery (getting over it) is the reason I show my art and soul here today.

Hopefully through this collaborative effort, we as artists can convey, to those who have not loved and lost, the amazing story of recovery from grief and loss, and lend support and validation to anyone who has.

 

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